I fell victim to a romance scam, or what I recently learned about that he is actually a "catfish". I met him on the popular dating website; Plenty of Fish back in Jan. He initially had approached me. And within a few days had asked me if we could leave the site and start texting each other, and I had agreed. He told me that he lived in Dallas, Texas, but was originally from Poland. (He has a very thick accent, and at times was very difficult to understand.) T
oward the end of January, he had stated that he had to leave on a business trip to Malaysia, and would only be gone for 5 weeks.
Well at the end of Feb. he was still supposedly over there and told me that he was having problems getting his items from the port, and that he had forgotten his credit card back home. He had asked me if I could loan him some money, and once he got paid by his employers, that he would pay me back.
By mid Feb. he had already professed his love for me, and by the end of Feb. he was already starting to refer to me as "my wife". He had used many different terms of endurement. He was making me feel so very loved and special. By the end of Feb., we had exchanged many e-mails, he had written the most loving and beautiful e-mails that I had ever received from any man before. I'm 61 years old, and I recently got divorced last year. I deal with very low self-esteem and low self-confidence. So, anyway I had believed his story and had sent him $500.00 on March 1st. Things were still progressing between us at this point.
And toward the end of March he had asked me if I could send him more money in April, because he still needed more money, because the amount that he had was not enough to get his items from the port. In the mean time, he kept giving me all of these different sob stories as to why he did not have enough money to get all of his items from the port. He would also tell me how much he missed me, and how he could not wait to be with me. I sent him another $250.00 on April 1st. He was still calling me his wife, and he was still telling me "Love you more". and how he could not wait to be with me, etc...
On May 1st he had asked me yet for more money, and I finally had to tell him that I could not send him anymore money, and shortly after that, it was as if he became distant toward me. So anyway, I sent him an e-mail telling him that it just would not work out between us. And he simply said "Thank you, and I wish you the best"...
I was still feeling very deeply hurt by this guy, but had decided to go back on POF, and within a few days, was approached by this guy from Seattle, Wa. Now I live in NW Washington, so I thought that it would be nice to meet a guy who lives much closer to me. But. within a couple of days talking on this site, he wanted to talk away from POF. I agreed. Prior to leaving POF, he said that he preferred to communicate through Viber messaging. Anyway, we had started messaging through Viber. After a few days, the similarities between this new guy and the other guy seemed uncanny. But this new guy told me that he had fallen in love with me within a week of talking on Viber, and he was pretty much using the same terms of endurement that the 1st guy was using. But this new guy had lost his wife, and his son is in a boarding school. He had even sent me pics of him and his son. This new guy had told me that he was from Estonia. Things have been progressing really great. and I recently found myself falling very much in love with this new guy.
But within a week of messaging on Viber, he had to leave to go on a business trip to the Gulf of Mexico, and that he would be gone for about 2 weeks. But now, he has been telling me that he will be there until the end of May. Just the other day he had asked me if I could send him a $200.00 Amazon card, so that he can update the database on his computer. I had asked him why couldn't he go out and buy an amazon card, and he said that it wasn't that easy, so I asked him if he could use his credit card, he gave me an answer that I did not quite understand. But the reason as to why he could not go out and buy this card, was that he finally had told me that he had spent all of his money buying me a gift that he had supposedly already had sent to me.
At this point I had not agreed to buy him an amazon card, simply because I had told him that I would not have the money to do so until June 1st. So he said that he could wait until then. I so desperately want to believe this guy, but I am having some doubts, and I am beginning to believe that this guy is yet another "catfish".
Please tell me from what I have mentioned to you in this post, do you believe that this new guy is yet another romance scammer? or other wise known as a "catfish" ?? The grammar of both of these guys really is not all that great. And both of them have [Removed - AJ]...
This new guy and I have spoken over the phone, but it has only been through Viber. When I had asked him if we could video chat sometime, he gave me some excuse that we could do so when things slowed down at work. One thing that I do not understand, he has time to message me, and has time for a 20 minute conversation, but does not have time to video chat?
oward the end of January, he had stated that he had to leave on a business trip to Malaysia, and would only be gone for 5 weeks.
Well at the end of Feb. he was still supposedly over there and told me that he was having problems getting his items from the port, and that he had forgotten his credit card back home. He had asked me if I could loan him some money, and once he got paid by his employers, that he would pay me back.
By mid Feb. he had already professed his love for me, and by the end of Feb. he was already starting to refer to me as "my wife". He had used many different terms of endurement. He was making me feel so very loved and special. By the end of Feb., we had exchanged many e-mails, he had written the most loving and beautiful e-mails that I had ever received from any man before. I'm 61 years old, and I recently got divorced last year. I deal with very low self-esteem and low self-confidence. So, anyway I had believed his story and had sent him $500.00 on March 1st. Things were still progressing between us at this point.
And toward the end of March he had asked me if I could send him more money in April, because he still needed more money, because the amount that he had was not enough to get his items from the port. In the mean time, he kept giving me all of these different sob stories as to why he did not have enough money to get all of his items from the port. He would also tell me how much he missed me, and how he could not wait to be with me. I sent him another $250.00 on April 1st. He was still calling me his wife, and he was still telling me "Love you more". and how he could not wait to be with me, etc...
On May 1st he had asked me yet for more money, and I finally had to tell him that I could not send him anymore money, and shortly after that, it was as if he became distant toward me. So anyway, I sent him an e-mail telling him that it just would not work out between us. And he simply said "Thank you, and I wish you the best"...
I was still feeling very deeply hurt by this guy, but had decided to go back on POF, and within a few days, was approached by this guy from Seattle, Wa. Now I live in NW Washington, so I thought that it would be nice to meet a guy who lives much closer to me. But. within a couple of days talking on this site, he wanted to talk away from POF. I agreed. Prior to leaving POF, he said that he preferred to communicate through Viber messaging. Anyway, we had started messaging through Viber. After a few days, the similarities between this new guy and the other guy seemed uncanny. But this new guy told me that he had fallen in love with me within a week of talking on Viber, and he was pretty much using the same terms of endurement that the 1st guy was using. But this new guy had lost his wife, and his son is in a boarding school. He had even sent me pics of him and his son. This new guy had told me that he was from Estonia. Things have been progressing really great. and I recently found myself falling very much in love with this new guy.
But within a week of messaging on Viber, he had to leave to go on a business trip to the Gulf of Mexico, and that he would be gone for about 2 weeks. But now, he has been telling me that he will be there until the end of May. Just the other day he had asked me if I could send him a $200.00 Amazon card, so that he can update the database on his computer. I had asked him why couldn't he go out and buy an amazon card, and he said that it wasn't that easy, so I asked him if he could use his credit card, he gave me an answer that I did not quite understand. But the reason as to why he could not go out and buy this card, was that he finally had told me that he had spent all of his money buying me a gift that he had supposedly already had sent to me.
At this point I had not agreed to buy him an amazon card, simply because I had told him that I would not have the money to do so until June 1st. So he said that he could wait until then. I so desperately want to believe this guy, but I am having some doubts, and I am beginning to believe that this guy is yet another "catfish".
Please tell me from what I have mentioned to you in this post, do you believe that this new guy is yet another romance scammer? or other wise known as a "catfish" ?? The grammar of both of these guys really is not all that great. And both of them have [Removed - AJ]...
This new guy and I have spoken over the phone, but it has only been through Viber. When I had asked him if we could video chat sometime, he gave me some excuse that we could do so when things slowed down at work. One thing that I do not understand, he has time to message me, and has time for a 20 minute conversation, but does not have time to video chat?
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