Thank you so much for this site and the warning before I got caught by this guy I "met" on mingle.com! I've been suspicious of him since the beginning but kind of had fun with our correspondence regardless. I haven't had a romantic interest in over 10 years so I did come close to falling for him, though previous experiences kept me skeptical. I've nicknamed the guy Mr. T and I'm pretty darned sure he's also come back as yet another guy in addition on mingle.com by the name of Donald
! Different picture but most very likely the same guy.
I've decided to string "both of them" along a very wee bit and simply jokingly emphasize the actual truth - I'm on welfare and have a chronic illness so he can't ever get any money out of me - period! I honestly don't have any - lol. Figure this will be better than getting angry with him or having him get angry with me. I'm also a bit curious to see how he'll go about trying anyway...or how he's going to get out of his ambition to meet me in Berlin when he's actually in Africa. We'll see. All he's gotten from me is my email address and for sure, he's definitely not going to get anything else!
Here's what he's written with highlights of lines I found here on your site to clue me in. Otherwise, he really sounded sincere sometimes. These guys are getting more pro and more personal at their business. Pretty awful. WATCH OUT! and Thanks again!
• Subject: Re: If only you are real
• Sent: End of June, 2011
Thank you for your mail. It should be noted that age is a number so your age does not have anything to do with me I saw it before I picked interest in your profile.
However I will be leaving for Shanghai , China for a business Trip in 3 days time. Due to this business trip it would not be possible for us to have a physical meeting within the next 2 weeks. Exchanging emails would be the best way for us to know ourselves better while I'm away.
I do not live in Berlin but I'm planning to move there very soon and so I thought it would be better to put Berlin as my location for people I intend to meet in the future. My stay in Hamburg is very Temporary, I only live there because it is where the only people I know in Germany are right now. I would like to tell you some Basic but important things about me.
My job is a long story, to put it simply, I am a Private Contractor in the Petroleum engineering sector and also a Business Man. I used to work as a Contract Engineer for Micron Eagle Engineering Group based in Aberdeen, Scotland and Houston, Texas.
I worked there for years before deciding to become my own Boss as an international Energy consultant for sources of Alternative Energy. Being an employee of a Major Engineering company like Micron Eagle was one of the reasons I travelled to most of the places I' ve been to.
However, I am also a very independent man and I am lucky enough to sponsor myself for leisure travelling to some of the places I've been to. If you are interested in the details of what my Job entails, it would have to be in another email. Hamburg was not were I intended to move to when I left Texas initially.
One of the main reasons why I moved to Europe was because of my job. There are many other reasons but I will tell you about it in the future when/if we meet or maybe in another email. I'm always very direct and straight forward I used to smoke but I quit a year ago.
I drink occasionally. I am a very spontaneous person. I tell you what is on my mind when I feel it and this has made me a very honest person naturally. believe life is like a book, people who don't travel just read only a few pages. I'm telling you this right now because it is possible I relocate for unknown reasons in the future.
I'm also a very Optimistic and Open Minded person. Being Optimistic and Open minded has always attracted people to me Naturally. I'm not the kind of man who base his feelings on the Outer Beauty or physical appearance. I believe in the Beauty on the Inside because I learned long ago that it is much better. I still know very little about you and would love to know a lot more. I'm new to internet dating, however I think you are a sincere and Genuine person.
So now its your turn. Tell me anything about yourself that you would like me to know. Or maybe something you are proud of about you. I'm an Open book, so don't hesitate to ask whatever you want to know about me..
Bye for now. I will write more tomorrow but I also hope to read from you soon. You can write via my private email below or maybe let me have your email add. in your next mail.
END OF JUNE, 2011
Good day (my real name) ,
I have decided to tell you my life's story from the very beginning.. My father was German and my Mum was from Switzerland. They are both deceased.
My parents met in Hamburg and back then my dad was a social worker for the German Government...They got married, had only one son (me) and decided to keep it that way. We stayed in Hamburg for years then we moved to Dublin, Ireland, My Dad tried to pursue a career there as a Professional Antiques collector, This was were we lived until I lost them both. I lost my Dad to an Auto crash in 1978
, I guessed my Mother loved him too much and so the following year she became seriously ill and later gave in to join her husband. Those were very tough times for me. About a year later I met my late wife at the University of Liverpool, she was a very sweet woman and I couldn't think of anyone else I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.
We got married(1981) and moved to the Medical Centre area of Houston in Texas. Shortly after we had our only child Marianne. In 2006 June, my wife was diagnosed with Breast Cancer and this ended up claiming her life in February 2007. Marianne lives with her husband and my granddaughter in Austin, Texas. I've been widowed since 2007
and although I have been in a couple of relationships nothing really ever came out of it. I believe that every encounter has its purpose. I do not live in the past and I always believed in LIVING in the NOW!! TODAY is a gift that is why it is called the PRESENT! Moving to Germany has been very rewarding in a lot of ways for me.
I can't really say I'm living the dream but I think happiness is actually something we give ourselves. I travel a lot and exploring the world is something I hope to do for the rest of my days.. I was born into a Christian home but as time went by, the conditions surrounding me made it imperative that I experienced other ways of life while growing up... I do not regret any of this and it has brought me to the level of understanding of the Human world that I have today.. I'm interested in many things including: history, humanity and world cultures.
I love hiking in the mountains and by the sea. Nature is a healing and uplifting influence upon my spirit, and in its beauty, I feel connected to the Universe. All so if you will permit me I will be there for all the time and give the upliftment that will make you forget all pains . I consider myself a practical individual who is complex at times but grounded in values that are universally good.
Am I perfect? Definitely not! Who is? But my sincere desire is to learn how to improve my imperfections in order to become the best that I can be as an ordinary functioning human being. I approach life with a sense of openness to new experiences and adventures with humour and wit, I'm willing to try things previously untried, while engaging all my faculties to absorb all that I can, because I happen to have an insatiable appetite for understanding the mechanisms of our reality and human behaviour as a whole.
In this regard, I have travelled extensively around the globe - Africa, Europe, Turkey, Japan, India, South East Asia, The Middle East, South America, around the US and the Caribbean Islands; Shortly before I moved to Germany I was on a 2 weeks cruise around the Caribbean (my 5th around the islands). Travel; which gives value to time spent on this planet, is continuously giving me new perspectives that are filled with exciting experiences and much spiritual and cultural enrichment.
I look forward to hearing further from you.
Bye for now,
7/27/2011 1:27:25 AM Westeuropäische Sommerzeit[email protected]
I have been busy settling down here in Shanghai. Business culture varies from place to place, but this is my first entirely independent business trip. My journeys in the past were usually on company assignments.
However, I always take time out to enjoy where ever I find myself on the planet and also try to learn somethings about the culture and people there. Life is simple, for those who take it simple. I am quite contented with where I am today. I don't like to complicate things, there is joy in every situation if you know the right angle to look at it from but because we live in a Monetary system we spend most of our lives trying to acquire wealth and secondary needs, while our primary needs and goals are left unseen.
I worked very hard, for a very long time to make sure I acquired a lot of wealth, but in the long run, apart from the money to acquire some luxuries, for what purpose would you need more money? To be realistic, except if you just want to be known as a rich person, wealth means nothing if you have no best friend to share it with. I know I have spent more than half of my lifetime on this planet already, this realisation has made me start to re-asses what my Main Goals in life are. What could be more important than a happy ending?
A man needs to live his life full of joy and happiness. No matter his achievements, he has no happy ending if he has no crown to complete him and that is a woman to call his own, Wife and Best friend. A woman who knows that even while arguing we still need to hold hands. A woman whom I can call a partner in crime
. A woman who I can tell anything. I think it is time for me to find this woman or die trying, because I embraced my work for so long trying to get over my late wife, that I worked so hard but now the time has come for me to move on and find Love and Happiness again.
My Daughter told me that just because something good has ended does not mean something better can not start. Why am I telling you about the kind of woman I want? I don't want to become really attached to someone who might not be looking for the same things I'm looking for in a relationship.
However, I want to let you know that I am so glad to read from you after a long time of espectation, I quit sure you are getting much better now. I also felt compelled to tell you a lot more about me in my next mail. I hope to read from you soon.
Lots Of Regards,
Hello (my real name),
I have been equally busy over here with my business plans here in Shanghai. Ever since I stopped working for my former employers and decided to be my own boss, I have been involved with a little of everything surrounding the alternative energy sector. Something that interests me is good for the environment and of course with anyone paying attention to the price of gas these days, very lucrative as well.
Initially I was mainly involved with the conversions of gas stations into handling gas with more than %10 ethanol. The projected involved bringing equipment to Germany that would be used to make the proper adaptations to the current technology, so gas stations can sell gas with more than 10 % ethanol. I usually had to travel to UK to purchase mechanical parts.
Right now, I'm here to invest in a newly discovered Technological invention of Vehicle fuel Pump adaptors which make use of special kinds of Biofuels (E70 - E90) . Biofuels usually consist of less than 15 % Ethanol, but with the new invention I'm here for, it would be possible for normal Vehicles to make use of Biofuels with upto 90 % Ethanol without the need to modify the vehicles engine. I hope you understand my mission here now.
After reading your email this night, I can tell you must have been through a lot of significant experiences in your life. I just want you to know that, I'm not the kind of person who is desperate to find a partner, being just friends is ok for me. To be honest I like to be friends with potential partners before thinking about getting serious. All my life I have been a successful career man... I am sometimes competitive. I set my professional and personal goals. I work hard to achieve them. I believe in a balanced life. I work hard and play harder now a days. I am blessed to be able to travel. I love to pamper and be pampered by my woman.
I am very affectionate and romantic. I am a natural pleaser and would do everything reasonable to please my woman. My two top LOVE languages are PHYSICAL TOUCH and verbal affirmation. I touch to convey my feelings and I verbally affirm my intimate feelings. There is more to physical chemistry. There should be emotional, spiritual chemistry. In fact, by talking on the phone we can discover if we have the verbal communication chemistry. My love-life is very important but I am very cautious because I do not want to get hurt.
That's another reason why I also like to be friends for sometime before moving to the level of being intimate partners.. I am very receptive, sensitive and reflective. When it comes to finding a partner, I am looking for a woman who has lots of integrity, someone who is expressive of her feelings and believes in OPEN COMMUNICATIONS. I believe honesty is the best policy. My dad used to tell me that if you tell the truth, you do not have to remember anything. The truth will always set you free in the long run. I seek a seriously inclined woman of substance who is sincere about making this online process work for a mutually exciting experience.
Someone who is unattached and emotionally available to share and expand life with as: partners, companions, friends or lovers - someone with whom I can communicate with words, touch and even our silence - looking forward together in the same direction, while creating our own bubble in which to cuddle and escape from life's daily annoyances; mutually growing in a comfortable way without sacrificing either of our individuality, with respect for each other's culture and beliefs; still exploring our amazing world with the excitement of discovery - and each other's minds and emotions to whatever degree. I have gone out on a couple of dates ever since I lost my wife, but nothing that was really serious came out of it. I communicated via email and phone calls with a few women and when you get to know them in person, they turned out to be the opposite.
They were 2 who were very emotionally unstable but said they were ready for a monogamous relationship, but yet they are still dating 3 men. I guess the connection just wasn’ t there. I would only want my relationship based on honesty and sincerity. I am tired of women who want to play games. I do not believe in one night stands. Sex is very beautiful when you are with somebody you really care about and have a very strong emotional connections. I am a very happy person and living life to the fullest. I do not need a woman, I want to be with the right woman who will be crazy about me and who I will be crazy about her. Somebody that I look forward to being with everyday to share my joys, my sorrow and my pains.
I believe in teamwork/ cooperation and that together humans make short term and long term goals. I take care of myself by living healthy: moderate eating, regular exercise and staying positive happy and grateful everyday! I have been reading a great book “ The truth about love”. It is very informative on the three stages of love: Chemistry, Compatibility and COMMITMENT! So even though I want to be friends at first, I am not just looking for friends, I'm also looking for the LOVE of MY LIFE who I want to grow old with graciously.
Looking forward to talking to you soon and my pix I shall send it soon.
Every time I read an email from you, I get more interested in meeting you physically. I can almost hear the cheerfulness of your personality in the words you write me and I think you must smile a lot. That is great and I love that, because I try to be that way as well. Like I told you previously, I am a very positive person and try to remain that way, no matter the circumstances..
I understand all you have written I just wish I was sitting in front of you sharing thoughts together... We seem to have a lot in common, I sometimes consider myself ambitious because I have a lot of dreams I wish to achieve before I die.... I moved to Germany for work related reasons and other personal reasons I will share with you when we meet personally.I like to go Skiing in the Winter. Two places I usually go to are Rossland, in British Columbia and Winter Park, Colorado. Now that I'm in Europe I intend to visit some Ski resorts in Austria, like Kirchberg and Kitzbuhel.
I like to read all kinds of books ranging from Non Fiction to Biographies, I also like super thrillers and Espionage stories. I have a whole lot of other things I do to catch some fun but it greatly depends on who I'm with and where we are. Sometimes I go to see a movie at the Cinema or maybe just listen to some good music ranging from rock to some track from Bob Marley music I also like jazz music. I' m planning on going for a short vacation after I'm done with everything I'm doing down here.
I also enjoy taking cruises, shopping, hanging out at the park or museum. You can also catch me taking long walks at the beach but its usually always lonely when you don't have someone to share that time with, someone to hold hands with & dig our feet into the sand, to Listen to the waves crash on the shore. To feel the sun upon our faces. Someone willing to travel to new exotic places and appreciate the things we've got, Even if it's not a lot. To feel the wind flow through our hair. To feel heaven as if we were there because that special someone is next to me and there's no other place I would rather be. In my short journey in life, I've noticed public opinions about relationships usually do more harm than good.
For this reason I like to keep my relationships private because when both partners sit down and talk about there differences they usually find better Solutions together. I have been very single for couple of years now but didn't really take note until my Daughter got married and I moved to Europe. Marianne and I are very close. She is practically my only true friend.
I have always tried to be there for her just like her mother would if she was still alive. I have reached a level of understanding in which the qualities that attract me to a woman usually have nothing to do with her appearance. I'm not the kind of man who wants a woman for just sex or her body. True love and Compassion can not be based on physical attraction(or lust) alone.
This is one of the important reasons why I do not date often. I do not have a problem with age, younger or older than me... I feel as long as we have a connection and the person is mature enough to understand that Mental Happiness is far more important than physical happiness, major physical differences do not matter so much. Making the world a better place is an Enormous task that can not be accomplished by any individual or group alone.
It can only be accomplished by the cooperation of all human beings. I am glad you are getting better each day.
Bye for now,