Hi dragonblazesting, it is hard to deal with the reality of being scammed by a romance scammer. Military scammers love to use this excuse and they prey on our love for a soldier's courage and heart for serving our country. You will not get the money back as stated but there is something more that was damaged beyond your bank account. It is your heart and your mind. That you will find is harder to deal with than the money. When you realize you have been harmed by a professional liar, it is a harsh reality. It happens every day and while my scammer wasn't posing to be in the military, he wove a lovely story that had me totally hooked and sending him money too. And my heart hurt for a long time after- I had envisioned a great new life, great new love. All gone once I came here and saw I was scammed. Yet that started my healing too. I knew the truth. I saw that, even though I felt stupid and ashamed, it isn't about that. It happens to the best of us. You just opened your heart and the scammer took advantage of you.
If you can post some of the emails and pictures, you can give the advantage to someone else to see they are being scammed and stop it too. Let us know if you need any help doing that.